Memories of Stanton Friedman

As I reflect upon Stanton’s life and the fourteen years that we worked together on archival research and writing, I think that we accomplished a great deal. He thought so too. It began in 2005, at the MUFON International Symposium, when I invited him to read the first draft of my manuscript on “Captured! The Betty and Barney Hill UFO Experience” and to contribute to it if it was up to his high standards. He drove from his home in New Brunswick to New Hampshire, three months later, to view Betty’s archival collection that I was preparing for U.N.H., to make copies, and to read my work. He agreed to contribute to the book, he said, because my approach was unbiased and scientific. His chapters on his area of expertise, the Betty Hill Star Map, Marjorie Fish’s investigation of it, and his role in finding the scientists who vetted Marjorie’s work were a great contribution. He was a champion of Marjorie's work and had no doubt, after a thorough investigation, that the Hill's event was real.

Stanton and I discovered that we worked together harmoniously, so we researched and wrote two additional books: “Science Was Wrong” and “Fact, Fiction, and Flying Saucers”. In addition to being business associates, we became close friends. He was the perfect gentleman who accompanied me to speaking engagements, the trustworthy person who shared a vendor table with me, the person who would give me an honest opinion, the brilliant intellect who was always meticulous in his work, the defender of the truth, and a shining example of a decent human being. He was kind, generous, and loved by many. He had an amazing sense of humor that brought uproarious laughter to our work.
Stanton retired in 2018, at age 84, but he missed actively participating in conferences. He was a social person who loved to connect with the public. Although he held a MSc in Nuclear Physics from the University of Chicago and had graduated valedictorian of his high school class at age 16, Stan could connect with anyone regardless of their educational level. He was brilliant yet grounded; a giant in his field yet humble. His message was simple yet had required extensive investigation. Stan needed evidence. His conclusions were not based in speculation.
  1. The evidence is overwhelming that Planet Earth is being visited by intelligently controlled extraterrestrial spacecraft. 
  2. The subject of flying saucers represents a kind of Watergate.
  3. There are no good arguments against the first two conclusions.
  4. We are dealing with the biggest story of the millennia. 
Stanton made the decision to come out of retirement in 2019. He was looking forward to his public appearance in Columbus, Ohio, on May 11. Before he left he told me that he was feeling "old and tired". Maybe he should rethink his decision. But he had made a commitment and did not want to disappoint the public. I encouraged him to cancel his upcoming appearances in Roswell, Irvine, and Phoenix. We were looking forward to another visit, but his health came first and foremost. He passed away at the Toronto Pearson Airport while waiting for the last leg of his trip home. There has been an outpouring of sympathy for his family and condolences to me, his business partner, from people around the world. He has lectured in 10 provinces, 50 states, and 19 foreign countries. The world is a better place because of the knowledge that Stanton imparted. He will be sadly missed.

Kathleen Marden
May 15, 2019